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  • Mark Clary

What Is A Man?

A real man is defined in Ephesians 5:23ff. “For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is head of the church. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” What does this look like in everyday living? Husbands, you are to provide the income to support your wife and your family so that she can properly manage and oversee your home, and help nurture and teach your children. This does not mean you become a stay at home dad or “house husband” while your wife does the heavy lifting in providing the main economic support for your family, (no matter how good her insurance plan is). Your wife is not hardwired to take on this responsibility. This task was given to you by the Lord in Genesis 3:17-19, “Then the Lord said to Adam, 'Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree about which I commanded you, saying, “You shall not eat from it;” Cursed is the ground because of you; in toil you will eat of it all the days of your life. Both thorns and thistles it shall grow for you; and you will eat the plants of the field; by the sweat of your face you will eat bread, till you return to the ground, because from it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return.' ”

Did you ever wonder why we have so many broken marriages and infidelities in families today? A big reason is the fact that men and women are working in the same workplace 8-10 hours a day with wives of other husbands and husbands of other wives. The temptations are too great for many to resist and walk away. Add to that the fact that now you have many women who are in authority over men in the workplace and you have a recipe for disaster. What man out there really likes to take orders from a woman? Yet our society applauds equality as some noble trait, when the truth of God's Word says just the opposite with regard to the roles of men and women. Men, you are to protect your wife from the many dangers in this world, both physically and spiritually (Don't get rid of your guns or your Bible).

True masculinity is in short supply today. By definition masculinity denotes vigor, forcefulness, strength, principled, and manly qualities. We live in a unisex society where it is difficult to tell who the real men are today. Anyone who has “half a brain” can tell by initial appearances and/or mannerisms men who are not displaying the characteristics of a real man. As 1 Corinthians 11:14 states, “Does not even nature itself teach you that if a man has long hair, it is a dishonor to him?” Furthermore, the Lord warns us in 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 regarding those who practice and give hearty approval of fornicators (premarital sex), idolaters, adulterers, effeminate, homosexuals, thieves, coveters, drunkards, revilers, or swindlers; the consequence being that of spending eternity in hell. A real man will confront and challenge the status quo and warn others of these particular behaviors/sins in an effort to protect those whom he loves. .

An effeminate man is one having qualities attributed to women, such as weakness, gentleness, delicacy, soft, and decadent. This is why true masculinity today is perceived as toxic and why the entertainment industry has for many years portrayed men as idiots in sitcoms, movies, etc. Any real man that exhibits the aforementioned qualities of masculinity and responsibilities that God has decreed in His Word is labeled as devisive, judgemental, undesirable, misogynist, intimidating, authoritarian, etc. Most men have been conditioned to accept a more softer and compliant role as dictated by woke companies and governing authorities. Today the American Psychological Association is calling traditional masculinity “HARMFUL”; hmm. Tell that to the World War II soldiers whom I believe was the last great era of real men to exist in this country we call the USA.

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